Fixes #2946 in the sense that we want to treat a cacheable backend synth
like any other object and kill the stale object it replaces.

We do not replace the stale oc when
- abandoning the bereq
- leaving vcl_backend_error with return (deliver) and beresp.ttl == 0s
- there is a waitinglist on this object because in this case the default
  ttl would be 1s, so we might be looking at the same case as the
  previous

Thank you @mbgrydeland for the review and spotting a mistake.